Do you ever get a song with a catchy chorus stuck in your head? Sometimes it’s just half the chorus playing over and over again — “You’re Beautiful,” “Call Me Maybe.” You can tell your mind to let it go (I just unintentionally got that song stuck in my head again), but the more you fight it, the more it repeats.
The easiest way to resolve this is to actually play the song. It’s as simple as saying, “Hey Siri… Alexa… Cortana… play ‘Remember Me’ from the Coco soundtrack.” Problem solved. Your brain hears it a couple of times and is satisfied long enough to move on.
When I was a kid, this was harder to resolve. If I had a song stuck in my head, I had two options. I could sit by the radio with a cassette tape and record for hours, hoping the song would come back on. Or I could ride my bike to the drug store that sold 45s — small records with two songs — and buy it to play over and over on my record player. Back then, it took effort. Let’s just say I owned a lot of 45s and cassette tapes in my teen years.
The brain works the same way with life. Whether you want it to or not, it is constantly trying to problem-solve. It wants to make sense of the world around you. That’s what can leave you restless during the day and awake at night.
The problem is that many of the things that occupy our mental space will never be resolved. You can’t fix them with a voice command or a bike ride to the store. You’ll never know all the secrets of the universe or why your friend didn’t text you back right away.
For the things that can be resolved, get enough information within reason. Don’t be afraid to ask questions if you need peace of mind. But not everything will have an answer, and you’ll need to be okay with that. People you care about will make irrational emotional decisions that don’t make sense to you. And you will make irrational emotional decisions that won’t make sense to yourself or others.
There is no perfect song.
There is no perfect situation.
There is no perfect life.
Things don’t always make sense, but if you can accept the harmony of the disharmony, you can enjoy life despite its flaws.
Be okay with not knowing the rest of the song.

