You don’t need to complete the song

Do you ever get a song with a catchy chorus stuck in your head? Sometimes it’s just half the chorus playing over and over again — “You’re Beautiful,” “Call Me Maybe.” You can tell your mind to let it go (I just unintentionally got that song stuck in my head again), but the more you fight it, the more it repeats.

The easiest way to resolve this is to actually play the song. It’s as simple as saying, “Hey Siri… Alexa… Cortana… play ‘Remember Me’ from the Coco soundtrack.” Problem solved. Your brain hears it a couple of times and is satisfied long enough to move on.

When I was a kid, this was harder to resolve. If I had a song stuck in my head, I had two options. I could sit by the radio with a cassette tape and record for hours, hoping the song would come back on. Or I could ride my bike to the drug store that sold 45s — small records with two songs — and buy it to play over and over on my record player. Back then, it took effort. Let’s just say I owned a lot of 45s and cassette tapes in my teen years.

The brain works the same way with life. Whether you want it to or not, it is constantly trying to problem-solve. It wants to make sense of the world around you. That’s what can leave you restless during the day and awake at night.

The problem is that many of the things that occupy our mental space will never be resolved. You can’t fix them with a voice command or a bike ride to the store. You’ll never know all the secrets of the universe or why your friend didn’t text you back right away.

For the things that can be resolved, get enough information within reason. Don’t be afraid to ask questions if you need peace of mind. But not everything will have an answer, and you’ll need to be okay with that. People you care about will make irrational emotional decisions that don’t make sense to you. And you will make irrational emotional decisions that won’t make sense to yourself or others.

There is no perfect song.
There is no perfect situation.
There is no perfect life.

Things don’t always make sense, but if you can accept the harmony of the disharmony, you can enjoy life despite its flaws.

Be okay with not knowing the rest of the song.

Updated on: October 12th, 2019

My Favorite Movies 2025

I’ve seen a lot of great movies this year, and some of these I never would have guessed would rank this high.

If a movie sticks with me and I’m still thinking about it weeks to months later, it moves up the list.

With that in mind, here are my Top 10 Favorite Movies of 2025.

10. Ballerina

I finally watched a John Wick movie… sort of. This takes place in the John Wick universe and is set between the third and fourth films. John Wick appears briefly, but this is Ana de Armas’ movie.

The story is simple and a little outlandish, but it works. People don’t come to these movies for plot, they come for the choreography and precision of the action, and this delivers. I’m a big fan of Ana de Armas and she clearly put in the work. Stylish, focused, and very rewatchable.

9. Life of Chuck

This one didn’t hit me right away, but months later I was still thinking about it. That matters.

It’s a quiet reminder to live fully, especially knowing that time is limited. Rewatching it with my parents only deepened the impact. A movie that grows instead of fades.

8. Marty Supreme

As I was leaving the theater someone said, “Man, that was stressful,” and I completely agreed. This movie is intense.

It follows Marty, a championship ping-pong player in the 1950s who will lie, cheat, and self-destruct if it means getting to Tokyo. I wasn’t convinced at first that this would work, but it absolutely does. The ending is very satisfying. Timothée Chalamet disappears into this role. He becomes the character.

7. Companion

A very enjoyable movie filled with twists that genuinely surprised me.

It blends dark comedy, horror, and suspense without overexplaining itself. The opening narration alone sets the tone perfectly. This is the kind of movie that rewards going in blind and trusting the experience. Thoughtful, restrained, and smart.

6. Badlands

I’ve never been a Predator fan until Prey, and this continued that momentum.

Instead of following the strongest hunter, the story focuses on the weakest of his clan trying to prove himself. Pairing him with a synthetic guide played by Elle Fanning adds humor and heart in unexpected ways. Even better on rewatch. I’m fully on board with wherever this universe goes next.

5. K-Pop: Demon Hunters

This movie only became more meaningful over time.

It’s fun, emotional, and full of energy, but what pushed it higher for me was seeing the real people behind the music and what the success meant to them. That context changed the experience and made it hit harder than I expected.

4. Sinners

A movie that is both joyful and tragic at the same time.

Set in the early 1930s, it starts as a celebration before turning dark in unexpected ways. The vampire elements mixed with music create something genuinely unique. It’s uncomfortable, intense, and morally messy, which is exactly why it works.

3. Wicked For Good

I’ve seen this multiple times and it still hits.

Some moments are predictable, but the twists, performances, and emotional payoff more than earn it. Ariana Grande and Cynthia Erivo have unreal chemistry. Every viewing has reinforced why this belongs near the top.

2. One Battle After Another

The first ten minutes are rough. I almost walked out.

Once it settles in, though, it becomes incredibly powerful. A father racing to save his daughter from the consequences of a violent past, set in a world that feels uncomfortably familiar. Intense, focused, and emotionally heavy in the best way.

1. Thunderbolts

This shouldn’t have worked, but it absolutely did.

Florence Pugh anchors the movie with a performance that makes it feel personal instead of spectacle-driven. Rather than focusing on destruction, it leans into mental health, regret, and found family. Even if you’ve never seen a Marvel movie before, this one stands on its own. It surprised me the most, and it stayed with me the longest.

Updated on: December 31st, 2025


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