It’s Only A Paper Moon

“It’s Only A Paper Moon” is probably my all time favorite song. The lyrics are so simple and yet there is so much “meaning” in the words. According to Wikipedia, it was written for a failed Broadway play in 1932. I’ve never bothered looking into the play because the only piece of pop culture of any significance that remains to this day from it is the song. It was written by Harold Arlen who also wrote “Over The Rainbow” and the song made popular by Frank Sinatra, “I’ve Got the World On A String”.

I love “Paper Moon” so much that I made a playlist of about 12 versions by many different artists over the last 87 years. My favorite version was sung by Nat King Cole in the late 1950s.

Here are the lyrics:

It is only a paper moon
Sailing over a cardboard sea
But it wouldn’t be make believe
If you believed in me

Yes, it’s only a canvas sky
Hangin’ over a muslin tree
But it wouldn’t be make believe
If you believed in me

Without your love
It’s a honky tonk parade
Without your love
It’s a melody played in a penny arcade

It’s a Barnum and Bailey world
Just as phony as it can be
But it wouldn’t be make believe
If you believed in me

Without your love
It’s a honky tonk parade
Without your love
It’s a melody played in a penny arcade

It’s a Barnum and Bailey world
Just as phony as it can be
But it wouldn’t be make believe
If you believed in me

I love how this song mentions all kinds of fake things but, as the author states, “It wouldn’t be make-believe if you believe in me”.

It is interesting how many things in our society are really make believe but with enough people believing in them, they become real. Our system of government, our money, our institutions, our way of life, aspects of our jobs, the things we love, and the things we hate. Many of them really have very little meaning but we chose to make them real in order to live in society. We need these system to function as a people and because there are enough people who choose to believe in them, there are consequences for not playing along.

Many of the fictional stories that we connect with, when enough people connect with them, they can become real by inspiring many and sometimes provoking societal change. The characters, though fictional, can become even more real than you or I and they can live many centuries after their creators have passed away.

And many of our ideas and things we want to achieve can be meaningless without the people who love us and believe in us. Even without that belief, us loving our own ideas and taking a chance on ourselves will bring those ideas to life. Right now our ideas are only dreams and no more real than anything else. Once these ideas are brought to life, they can inspire many and they can influence others to do the same. The things we create today can cause a ripple effect to future generations.

Thank you to all the people in my life that love me and support me. It helps make this phony world very real to me.

Updated on: November 30th, 2019

The Collector

He entered the shop just to look around. He had nothing in particular that he was looking for that day. As he turned the corner he saw a display that caught his eye. There were figurines from his favorite childhood show. He felt something that he hadn’t felt in a long time. The marketing message behind the display read “collect all 12”. He really only wanted to own his 3 favorite characters that he had a fondness for as a child.

So that day he bought 3. He had the perfect shelf to put his collection. He could now enjoy it every time he entered the living room. He was happy with the 3.

He went to websites and looked at all of the accessories that went with these figurines. There was one that he really liked. It was a diorama that recreated a scene from the show. He bought it and set it up. His 3 figures looked amazing against the back drop. The problem was, every time he passed the shelf he saw the empty holes where the other figurines were supposed to go. They really would look great on this display. All of his friends would enjoy it as well when they come over and maybe they would see their favorites in his collection.

Getting the other 9 was going to be pricey but it had to be done, so he dipped into his emergency savings. He really needed to feel complete and without those figurines he was going to have trouble sleeping. So now he had all 12 and he felt complete once again. Sure, he didn’t like the new 9 as much as his original collection but that didn’t matter. Everything was perfect.

A week later he was on the internet, and probably because he had been to a few of the fan pages related to his collection, he was getting ads that said “coming in 2 months” and there was a picture of a new set of 12 figurines. The collection was now up to 24!! There was 2 in the new group that he was really excited about. It was a long 2 months. He stopped enjoying his collection and became more focused on looking online to see all of the new stuff that he desired. If he expanded his collection then they won’t fit on the shelf anymore, so he invested in a large display case in anticipation of his new purchases. The case looked so empty. He couldn’t wait to fill it.

A year later he had all 100 from the collection. At this point he wasn’t even sure why he was still buying them because he really didn’t enjoy the new figurines. But if he didn’t have them, his collection wouldn’t be complete. He could never enjoy what he had because he was always looking for what was next.

As he was passing the case something caught his eye. The 3 original figurines that he loved so much were way in the back and he could barely see them on the crowded shelf. He pulled them out and set them on top of the cabinet. He no longer had that feeling he once had for them in the shop. They now represented this obsessive hoarding that caused him a great amount of anxiety. This needed to stop!!

He put the entire collection up for sale and he even sold the display case. He didn’t come close to making his money back since the figurines were so mass produced that if someone wanted one they more than likely already owned it.

He found himself in the shop again but this time not to buy figurines. He had already moved on. He saw someone looking at the display longingly like he once did over a year ago. The marketing message behind the display read “collect all 250”. He said to the guy, “You don’t need to possess it to admire its beauty. It becomes less special when you see it every day. Enjoy the fact that you got to see it here and that you had the opportunity to relive a piece of your childhood. Once you take it home it will lose that connection as it becomes a burden.”

Updated on: July 28th, 2018

My Favorite Movies of 2023

This was a hard year to choose my top movies since I really loved many films this year. There were some that I was certain would make my top 10 but as I really looked at the list I had to make some hard cuts. I tried to go for some variety (even though 3 Marvel movies made the list) but one thing that was true about all of these films was they had great characters that you can connect with. As with every top 10 list, other than maybe the top 5, it could change from day to day based on my mood. Over all I am happy with what I’ve chosen. Okay… Here we go!

10. M3gan

We started out the year right with this horror/soft dark comedy. In this story a young girl whose parents died in a car accident moved in with her aunt who doesn’t know how to deal with kids. Interestingly enough her aunt is a robotics expert who makes toys for kids. Instead of paying attention to her niece she has a new robot girl, Megan, she created spend time with her. Of course all hell breaks loose when the robot becomes deadly as she becomes possessive over the niece that she bonded with. There is a lot of not so subtle commentary on how we use electronics to distract our kids. This story has a great balance of horror, humor, and gives us an opportunity to look at how we use our toys to distract ourselves when we should be spending time developing relationships with the ones we love.

9. The Wrath of Becky

I surprise myself when this made the list! I saw the trailer and it looked like a lot of fun. This is a sequel to a 2020 film that before this I had never heard of called Becky. I decided to watch both back to back. In the first move from 2020 Becky is a young teen who goes to a cabin with her dad, her dad’s new girlfriend, and her girlfiend’s son. There is a lot of family drama interrupted by a home invasion gone bad. It is a dark story mixed with comedy as this 13 year old girl Becky takes out the bad guys. The 2023 story pins Becky, now 16, against white supremists who are plotting to kill a Senator. It is so much fun to watch! Both movies are very short so you can easily watch these together over a couple of nights.

8. Are Your There God? It’s Me, Margret

This is a coming of age story where Margret is dealing with life changes in her 6th grade year. She moved to a new city and is dealing with things like making friends, understanding puberty, and trying to understand what and who God is. Even though I am not an 11 year old girl dealing with puberty I can relate to dealing with life changes and the struggles her parents are going though. It is a very real story with a lot of heart and depending where you are in life, this is a multi-generational story that we can all find something to connect with.

7. Guardians of the Galaxy Vol 3

This is the conclusion of the Guardians of the Galaxy crew. Between the 3 Guardians movies, Avengers Infinity War and Endgame, and the Christmas special on Disney Plus, these characters are ridiculous and the plots are over the top insane but it has so much heart that you really care for the characters and what they are going through. This story focus on Rocket Raccoon who is dying and the team must go on a mission to save him. The Guardians are THE BEST of the Marvel Cinematic Universe which is why this movie was one of the biggest money makers of the year. If you make good characters, regardless of the story, people will support it.

6. Spider-Man: Across the Spider-Verse

This movie combines 2 things that I love… the Multiverse and animated Spider-Man. Right now the Multiverse has been overdone in popular media but when it does it right it really works. What they do right with this story is focus on the characters and they have a really good very real connection even if the story is out there. What works here is the 2 leads Miles and Gwen. Their connection and their very real story with each other and their parents. This is another good example that you can have a very out there plot as long as you don’t forget to include heart.

5. Killers of the Flower Moon

I didn’t expect to like this movie and I almost didn’t see it since it was over 3 hours long. The basic plot is this is true story that takes place about a hundred years ago where a group of people took advantage of the Osage Nation to steal their oil money. They would marry into the Osage Nation and slowly kill family members to inherit their money. The main focus of the story was on Mollie Burkhart and her husband Ernest Burkhart. It is a very tragic story. Shining a light on our dark history can help prevent us making the same mistakes. Once this is available on streaming you may want to watch this over 3 or 4 nights.

4. A Good Person

This is a great human story where Florence Pugh plays Allison who at the beginning of the story is in a car accident not fully caused by her but if she wouldn’t have been looking at her phone maps app she could have reacted quicker. Because of the accident 2 of her friends died in the car. The story is about her dealing with her grief and making an unlikely friendship with Morgan Freeman’s character Daniel who plays the father of her friend. What I like about this story is dealing with trying to move forward after tragedy. Life can change in a moment and we have to find a way to continue living… somehow… someway.

3. The Marvels

If you want to watch a fun movie with a lot of heart PLEASE give this a try. The reason why I was excited about this was I LOVE the Disney Plus show Ms Marvel. The show follows Kamala Khan who develops super powers after receiving a family bracelet that somehow unlocks her powers. Kamala is a Pakistani teen who has a wonderful relationship with her family. The best part of the show (which carries over to the movie) is the actress Iman Vellani grew up as a fan of the comic version of Ms Marvel because the character was so similar to her. Even though she wasn’t a screen actor she was the number one choice because of her love of the character and, really, she IS Ms Marvel. To me this is a movie version of the show that just happens to have Captain Marvel. It was fun to see the 3 leads on screen. They work so well together. Elements of the plot were weak but the characters are so much fun to watch. AGAIN… if you have great characters that always leads the story.

2. The Color Purple

It had been years since I had seen the 80s movie and I barely remembered it. This is a wonderful musical that follows the tragic story Celie who is separated from her sister Nettie and forced to marry the abusive Mister. It is really dark and being a musical they really show the emotion through song. Past the half way mark the story begins to turn as Celie’s story starts to shift. It is a beautiful story of surviving despite tragedy and it earns it’s high moments at the end of the film. I have cried during many movies over the years (I’m looking at you Pixar) but I have never cried so much EVER as I did during this movie. I KID YOU NOT… my eyes were so dehydrated that when I got home I went straight for the liquid tears eye drops to relieve my dried out eyes.

1. Barbie

I was primary looking forward to this because I have loved EVERY Greta Gerwig movie she has ever made. Her last 2 movies have made the top of my movies of the year lists (Little Woman #2 in 2019; Lady Bird made my #1 spot in 2017). You would think that I am not the target market for this movie since I didn’t grow up playing with Barbie dolls. I think most people know the general plot of this so I don’t need to explain it but what this meant to me relates to deal with life changes (which is a theme of a few of my choices this year). Sometimes life throws you a curveball. It is a continual death and rebirth. One day you think life is one way but then you are presented with a new information that changes everything. You can try to continue like nothing has changed but sometimes you have to let your old ways of thinking die as you find a new path… a new way of seeing the world. Though the main focus was on Barbie, Ken has his own journey that is just as important to the story. This movie moved me so much I saw it 3 times in the theater and purchased it on streaming. Based on the fact that this was by far the biggest grossing movie of the year, I was not the only one.

Updated on: January 2nd, 2024


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